Budgeting Without Deprivation: Why Your Budget Isn’t Working (Yet!)

Budgeting Without Deprivation: Why Your Budget Isn’t Working (Yet!)

Aug 13, 2025 | Book of the Week, Building Emotional Muscle, Building Financial Muscle, Credit Score, Debt, Debt Payment, Debt Repayment, Educational Series, Financial Education, Financial Freedom, Financial Management 101, Mortgage, Net Worth, Relationships, Retirement, Saving Money

Raise your hand if you’ve ever tried to stick to a budget…

…only to find yourself breaking it faster than you can say “unexpected Amazon purchase.”

Yep, I see you. And you’re not alone.

Budgets have gotten a bad rap over the years.

For many people, the word “budget” feels about as appealing as:

  • Giving up your daily coffee runs.
  • Saying “no” to dinners out with friends.
  • Counting every single penny and feeling like you’re constantly falling short.

But here’s the truth nobody talks about:

Your budget isn’t failing because you’re bad with money.

It’s likely failing because it wasn’t built to work for you in the first place. Today, I’m going to show you:

  • Why most budgets backfire (and it has nothing to do with willpower).
  • How to reframe budgeting as a freedom tool – not a punishment.
  • My favorite tips to create a budget that actually sticks (without feeling deprived!).

By the end of this post, you’ll feel empowered to take control of your money in a way that feels personal, realistic, and – dare I say it – fun. Ready? Let’s dive in.

? The Real Reason Most Budgets Fail

Here’s the million-dollar question:

Why do so many budgets start with excitement… but crash and burn within weeks?

Simple:

Most people create budgets from a place of restriction, not intention.

Think about it.

When people sit down to “get serious” about money, they often whip out a budgeting app or spreadsheet and immediately start slashing everything they love:

  • No more takeout.
  • No more fun shopping.
  • No more travel.

It’s like putting your money on a crash diet. And just like a crash diet, it’s unsustainable. You might stick with it for a week or two. Maybe even a month. But eventually, you’ll start to feel suffocated. Deprived. Frustrated.

And then? You rebel.

Suddenly, you’re splurging on things you “shouldn’t” buy, feeling guilty, and thinking, “I just suck at budgeting.”

Sound familiar?

? Why Budgeting Doesn’t Have to Feel Like Deprivation

Here’s the mindset shift that changes everything: Your budget isn’t a punishment. It’s a permission slip.

Let me say that again, louder for the people in the back: Your budget is a tool that gives you permission to spend on what truly matters to you.

Budgeting isn’t about cutting everything out of your life. It’s about:

  • Getting clear on your values.
  • Prioritising what brings you joy and security.
  • Being intentional with every dollar.

It’s the ultimate act of self-respect and self-care. Because when you create a budget that aligns with your goals, you’re telling yourself: “I trust myself with money. I’m creating a life that feels good today and tomorrow.”

    Your budget isn’t a punishment. It’s a permission slip.

    Your budget isn’t a punishment. It’s a permission slip. Your budget is a tool that gives you permission to spend on what truly matters to you.

    ✨ The 3 Most Common Budget Mistakes (And How to Fix Them!)

    Let’s get specific. Here are the biggest budgeting mistakes I see over and over and how you can fix them starting today.

    Mistake #1: You’re Budgeting for a Fantasy, Not Your Real Life

    So many people create their budget based on what they wish their life looked like, not how they actually live. You might be thinking:

    • “I’ll just cut my grocery spending in half.”
    • “I’ll stop eating out completely.”
    • “No more personal spending for the next three months!”

    But here’s the problem:

    • You still have to eat.
    • You still want to enjoy your life.
    • You’re not going to suddenly become a minimalist monk overnight.

    Solution: Budget for your real life, not your fantasy version.

    Ask yourself:

    • What are my non-negotiables? (Coffee, takeout, hobbies, etc.)
    • Where am I willing to cut back (for now)?
    • How can I adjust slowly instead of all at once?

    Mistake #2: You’re Not Building in Flexibility

    Life happens. Unexpected expenses come up. Surprise celebrations pop onto the calendar. Your car decides to remind you it needs repairs (usually at the worst possible time).

    Most budgets fail because they’re too rigid. Every dollar is assigned perfectly… until reality hits.

    Solution: Build in buffer zones.

    In your budget, always include:

    • A miscellaneous category for unexpected expenses.
    • A “fun money” allowance—even if it’s small—to spend guilt-free.
    • A savings cushion for bigger unexpected costs over time.

    This way, your budget can bend without breaking.

    Tie every budgeting choice to a goal that lights you up.

    ? How to Create a Budget You’ll Actually Stick To (Without Feeling Deprived)

    Let’s get into the practical part! Here’s my step-by-step process for creating a feel-good, flexible, empowering budget that works for real people with real lives.

    Step 1: Know Your Numbers (Without Shame!)

    You can’t improve what you don’t measure. Start by gathering:

    • Your monthly income (after taxes).
    • Fixed expenses (rent, utilities, insurance, subscriptions).
    • Variable expenses (groceries, gas, dining out, etc.).
    • Minimum debt payments.

    Remember, this isn’t about judging yourself. It’s about getting honest with where you’re at.

    Step 2: Identify Your Financial Priorities

    Ask yourself:

    • What matters most to me right now?
    • Which goals am I working toward over the next 3–6 months?

    Examples:

    • Paying off credit card debt.
    • Saving for a vacation.
    • Building an emergency fund.

    Rank them in order of importance.

    Step 3: Allocate Your Income (The Empowered Way!)

    Now it’s time to assign your dollars. Start with this simple formula:

    • Fixed Expenses – Cover your essentials first.
    • Savings & Debt Goals – Direct money toward your top priorities.
    • Variable Expenses – Budget realistically for your daily life.
    • Fun Money & Flex Funds – Yes, this is non-negotiable!

    Every dollar should have a job, but make sure some of those jobs bring you joy!

    Step 4: Automate Where You Can

    Take the mental work out of budgeting by automating:

    • Bill payments
    • Minimum debt payments
    • Savings contributions (even small ones!)

    Automation reduces decision fatigue and makes it easier to stay on track.

    Step 5: Check In Weekly (Not Just Monthly!)

    Most people only check their budget once a month… or never. That’s like driving with your eyes closed until you crash. Instead, commit to a weekly money date with yourself.

    Ask:

    • What went well this week?
    • Where did I overspend or underspend?
    • Do I need to adjust anything for the week ahead?

    This keeps you engaged and in control, without feeling overwhelmed.

    ? Yes, You Can Still Have Lattes and Takeout (Here’s How!)

    Let’s address the elephant in the room. Do you have to give up your favorite things to succeed financially? Absolutely not.

    Here’s the trick:

    • Budget for them intentionally.
    • Scale back elsewhere if needed.
    • Enjoy them guilt-free.

    Maybe that means fewer takeout nights… but keeping your Friday sushi ritual. Maybe it means making coffee at home most days… but savoring your weekend café visits.

    It’s about balance, not restriction.

    You can still keep your Friday sushi ritual with the fam!

    If you budget intentionally, you can still keep your Friday sushi ritual with the fam without the guilt!

    It’s about balance, not restriction.

    ? How This Ties Into the Your Financial Freedom Breakthrough™ – 90 Day Money Makeover

    This is exactly why I spend a full section of my Your Financial Freedom Breakthrough™ – 90 Day Money Makeover guiding people through budgeting in a whole new way. We don’t just talk numbers – we talk values:

    • What makes you feel secure?
    • What experiences light you up?
    • How can your money fuel the life you want, both today and in the future?

    You’ll learn how to:

    • Build a flexible budget that supports your goals.
    • Ditch the guilt around spending.
    • Create a money plan that feels empowering—not restrictive.

    And the best part? You’ll have support, accountability, and expert guidance every step of the way.

    ? Ready to Take the First Step? (Mini Challenge!)

    Here’s a quick exercise to get you started today:

    The Budget Clarity Challenge:

    • Write down your top 3 financial goals for the next 90 days.
    • Review your last month of spending (no judgment!).
    • Highlight every purchase that didn’t align with your goals.

    Ask yourself:

    What can I adjust next month to better support my goals, without cutting out everything I enjoy?

    Choose one small change you’ll make this week. This simple process can open your eyes to how you’re currently spending, and show you just how much power you have to shift it.

    ? Final Thoughts: Budgeting Is About Freedom, Not Frustration

    Here’s what I want you to remember:

    Budgeting isn’t about deprivation – it’s about designing a life you love. Your money can support your dreams, your joy, and your future security – all at the same time.

    You don’t need to be “perfect” with your budget. You just need to stay consistent and flexible.

    And if you’re ready to dive deeper into this work, to finally build a money system that sticks – keep your eyes open. My Your Financial Freedom Breakthrough™ – 90 Day Money Makeover program opens for enrollment on September 10th.

    Together, we’ll build a budget that works with your life, not against it, and set you up for financial freedom that lasts.

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    EOFY is Over – Now What? How to Make the Most of Your Fresh Start

    EOFY is Over – Now What? How to Make the Most of Your Fresh Start

    Jul 9, 2025 | Building Financial Muscle, Financial Management 101

    The receipts are in, the spreadsheets are done, and you’ve (hopefully) high-fived your tax agent. The end of financial year (EOFY) is behind us – but what now?

    For many Australians, EOFY feels like the finish line. But what if I told you it’s actually the starting line for something bigger: your financial transformation?

    This fresh start isn’t just about filing taxes. It’s about taking back control, getting intentional, and building the kind of financial life that makes you feel calm, confident, and in charge.

    Here’s exactly how to use the post-EOFY energy to fuel your financial success in the new year.

    1. Reflect, Don’t Regret: Review Your Financial Year With Curiosity

    Before you launch into new goals, pause to reflect. What worked last year? What didn’t? Where did your money actually go?

    This isn’t about blame or shame. It’s about building awareness. If you don’t know your patterns, how can you shift them?

    Look at:

    • Income vs. spending: Were you living within your means?
    • Savings progress: Did you build or drain your emergency fund?
    • Debt: Did it grow, shrink, or stay the same?
    • Investments: Did you start, stop, or ignore them?

    Pro tip: Ask yourself: “What would I love to feel differently about my money this year?”

    2. Reset Your Financial Goals (Make Them Feel Exciting!)

    Generic goals like “save more money” or “spend less” don’t motivate anyone. Your goals should feel like a reward, not a punishment.

    Examples:

    • Old: Save $5,000
    • New: Save $5,000 to take the family on a Bali holiday

    Or:

    • Old: Pay off credit card
    • New: Clear my credit card so I can sleep better at night and finally stop stressing over bills

    The more emotionally connected you are to the why, the easier it is to stay focused.

    Try this:

    • Choose 1 short-term goal (within 6 months)
    • Choose 1 long-term goal (6+ months to 3 years)
    • Attach a reason and an emotion to each

    Reset Your Financial Goals

    3. Do a Budget Reset That Reflects the Life You Want

    Forget rigid old-school budgets. Let’s talk about a spending plan that reflects your values.
    Where do you want your money to go? Think beyond bills. Think joy, freedom, peace of mind. Start by:

    • Reviewing subscriptions: Are you using them all?
    • Updating your cost of living: Groceries, fuel, and utilities have changed – so should your plan
    • Adjusting categories: Maybe you’re spending more on wellness, less on takeaway

    Bonus idea: Create a “Fun Fund” for guilt-free spending on the things you love. Yes, really.

    4. Revisit (or Create) Your Emergency Fund

    This year has already shown us how unpredictable life can be. Having a financial buffer can be the difference between stress and peace of mind.

    Even $1,000 can give you breathing room. Ideally, aim for 3 months of expenses, but start small and build momentum.

    Hot tip: Keep your emergency fund in a high-interest savings account you don’t touch unless it’s a genuine emergency.

    5. Re-assess Your Super and Insurance

    Post-EOFY is the perfect time to check in on the financial foundations you often forget about.

    • Superannuation: Are your contributions on track? Is your fund performing? Are fees eating into your future?
    • Personal insurance: Are you covered for income protection, life, or trauma? Is it still aligned with your needs?

    Even a quick 20-minute review can help you spot easy wins or avoid future issues. Need help? A financial coach (like me) or adviser can guide you through these choices in plain English.

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    6. Start a New Habit (Small, Consistent Wins Add Up)

    Want to save more, spend better, or build wealth? It starts with habits. Pick one new habit that supports your bigger goal. For example:

    • Transfer $50 to savings every payday
    • Spend 5 minutes a week reviewing your money
    • Read or listen to one money podcast per month
    • Tiny habits build massive momentum.

    Try this: Schedule a 15-minute “money date” with yourself every week. Make it fun: coffee, music, candle, whatever makes it feel less like a chore.

    7. Get Support: Don’t go it alone!

    If the last financial year felt overwhelming, you don’t have to repeat that story.

    Whether it’s talking to a financial coach (yep, that’s me!), joining a money challenge, or signing up for a workshop, getting support can fast-track your progress and boost your confidence.

    You’re not behind. You’re not bad with money. You just haven’t had the right tools or team yet.

    EOFY is Done. Your Financial Comeback Starts Now.

    This new financial year is more than a date change, it’s an opportunity. You can choose to:

    • Set goals that actually excite you
    • Build a money plan that fits your real life
    • Create calm, clarity, and confidence in your finances

    Ready to stop winging it and start winning it? Book your free discovery session today and let’s create a plan you can stick to, without the stress.

    Your fresh start is waiting. Let’s make it count.

    You survived EOFY. Now let’s help your money thrive.

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    Breaking the Chains: How to Escape the Cycle of Living Paycheck to Paycheck

    Breaking the Chains: How to Escape the Cycle of Living Paycheck to Paycheck

    Jun 18, 2025 | Book of the Week, Building Emotional Muscle, Building Financial Muscle, Credit Score, Debt, Debt Payment, Debt Repayment, Financial Education, Financial Freedom, Financial Health, Financial Management 101, Home Loan, Mindset, Mortgage, Retirement, Saving Money, Self Development

    Do you feel like your money disappears as soon as you get paid? Are you constantly counting the days until your next paycheck? If so, you’re not alone – millions of people find themselves trapped in the cycle of living paycheck to paycheck. But here’s the good news: escaping this cycle isn’t just possible, it’s within your control.

    Let’s break the chains and create a life where money works for you, not the other way around.

    Step 1: Shift from Survival Mode to Financial Strategy

    Most people stuck in the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle don’t have a spending problem, they have a strategy problem. Instead of reacting to financial emergencies, it’s time to start planning proactively.

    Ask yourself:

    • What would financial stability look like for me?
    • How much money do I need to feel secure between paychecks?
    • What’s stopping me from breaking free?

    By shifting your focus from surviving to strategising, you take back control of your finances.

    Shift from Survival Mode to Financial Strategy

    Step 2: Find Your Financial Leaks (and Plug Them!)

    Ever wonder where all your money goes? It’s time to find out. Track your spending for a month and identify the small, sneaky expenses draining your bank account. These could be:

    • Subscription services you forgot about
    • Daily coffee runs that add up to hundreds a month
    • Unused gym memberships
    • Frequent food delivery orders

    Plugging these leaks doesn’t mean cutting out all enjoyment – it means being intentional about where your money goes.

    Small, sneaky expenses might be draining your bank account

    Step 3: Pay Yourself First – Even If It’s Just $10

    The key to breaking the cycle is creating a buffer between you and financial stress. Start by setting aside a small amount from every paycheck – yes, even if it’s just $10. The act of saving builds momentum and rewires your brain for financial growth.

    Open a separate savings account and automate deposits. Over time, you’ll build a financial cushion that prevents you from relying on the next paycheck.

    Step 4: Increase Your Income Without Working More Hours

    If your expenses leave you with nothing to save, it’s time to boost your income. But before you assume that means working more hours, consider these options:

    • Ask for a raise – most employees don’t, and employers often have room to negotiate.
    • Sell unused items – your clutter could be someone else’s treasure.
    • Offer freelance or side gigs – platforms like Fiverr, Upwork, and Etsy offer ways to monetise your skills.
    • Rent out assets – if you have an extra room, parking space, or equipment, consider renting it out.

    Small income boosts can create big shifts in your financial freedom.

    Step 5: Use Your Credit Wisely (Not Recklessly)

    Credit can be a tool or a trap – it all depends on how you use it. Instead of relying on credit cards to cover gaps, use them strategically:

    • Pay off balances in full to avoid high-interest debt.
    • Use credit card rewards for cash back or travel perks.
    • Build your credit score to access lower rates on future loans.

    Mastering your credit is key to long-term wealth-building.

    Step 6: Create a 3-Month Escape Plan

    Breaking free isn’t about overnight miracles, it’s about consistent steps in the right direction. Create a 3-month plan with small, achievable goals:

    • Month 1: Cut financial leaks and save at least $50.
    • Month 2: Increase income by $200 through side gigs or negotiations.
    • Month 3: Use extra income to build a financial cushion and pay off high-interest debt.

    By the end of 90 days, you’ll have proof that escaping the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle is possible.

    FINAL THOUGHTS

    Financial freedom isn’t just for the lucky, it’s for those who take action. You have the power to rewrite your financial story and create a life where money works for you.

    If you’re ready for a deeper transformation and a complete guide to managing your money, my Master Your Money Program will provide the step-by-step tools to take control once and for all.

    You deserve financial peace – start your escape plan today!

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    The 5 Biggest Money Mistakes Small Business Owners Make (And How to Fix Them Fast)

    The 5 Biggest Money Mistakes Small Business Owners Make (And How to Fix Them Fast)

    May 19, 2025 | Building Emotional Muscle, Building Financial Muscle, Credit Score, Debt Payment, Debt Repayment, Financial Education, Financial Freedom, Financial Management 101, Self Development

    Let’s face it – being a small business owner is no joke.

    You’re juggling clients, projects, quoting jobs, doing the work, chasing payments, paying staff or suppliers, and – somewhere in there – trying to make sure you actually get paid.

    But if it feels like you’re always hustling and still living week to week, chances are… your money systems are working against you, not for you.

    And here’s the thing: it’s not about how smart you are or how hard you work. Most business owners weren’t taught how to manage their money. You were probably just thrown into the deep end, figuring it out as you go.

    The good news? You can stop spinning your wheels, and it starts by avoiding the most common financial traps.

    In this blog, I’ll walk you through the 5 biggest money mistakes I see every week and more importantly, show you how to fix them fast so you can take back control and finally feel financially secure in your business.

    Mistake #1: Not Paying Yourself a Regular Wage

    Let’s talk about one of the most common (and painful) mistakes small business owners make: they don’t pay themselves consistently.

    You might be saying:

    “I take money out when I need it.”

    “There’s never enough to pay myself regularly.”

    “I’ll pay myself properly when things settle down.”

    Here’s the problem with that: you’re running your business like an ATM, not a real operation. And that mindset will keep you broke – even when you’re making good money.

    ? The Fix:

    Set up a dedicated Owner’s Pay account, and start paying yourself a consistent wage every week or fortnight. Even if it’s only $200 to start, build the habit. When you get paid from clients, transfer a fixed percentage into your Owner’s Pay account – just like you’d pay an employee.
    This does two things:

    • It forces you to treat your income seriously.
    • It allows you to plan and budget your personal life better.

    The Edge coaching program teaches you how to calculate your break-even wage and build a cash flow system that actually works for your business.

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    Mistake #2: Mixing Personal and Business Finances

    It might seem harmless to buy a Bunnings tool on your personal card or pay the rego for the work ute from your grocery account – but over time, this creates a total mess.

    It’s impossible to track how your business is performing if everything is muddled together. You won’t know what you’re spending, earning, or saving – and when tax time rolls around, you’ll be in a world of pain.

    ? The Fix:

    Set up two separate bank accounts at the bare minimum:

    • One for business income and expenses
    • One for personal living

    Better yet, I recommend creating five simple business accounts:

    1. Income – all revenue lands here
    2. Owner’s Pay – your regular wage
    3. Expenses – for bills, tools, and running costs
    4. Tax & BAS – set aside 25 – 30% per payment
    5. Profit – for business growth or rainy days

    Once this is in place, your financial clarity skyrockets. You’ll know exactly where your money is going, and you’ll be less tempted to “accidentally” spend it.

    Mistake #3: Ignoring the Numbers

    This one’s a biggie, and I get it. Many small business owners avoid looking at their numbers because they’re overwhelmed, too busy, or just afraid of what they’ll find.
    But let’s be honest – if you don’t know your numbers, you don’t know your business.
    You can’t improve what you don’t measure.

    ? The Fix:

    Start by checking these numbers weekly:

    • Revenue: What came in?
    • Expenses: What went out?
    • Net Profit: What’s left over after expenses?
    • Break-even: How much do you need to earn to cover costs and pay yourself?

    Create a simple weekly “money date” even just 30 minutes every Friday, to review your finances, send invoices, follow up on payments, and track your progress.

    In The Edge, we give you simple templates to track this in under 10 minutes a week (no accountant brain required).

    Mistake #4: No System for Tax and BAS

    You know the drill: things are going well… until BAS time hits. Suddenly the ATO wants thousands you didn’t put aside, and you’re scrambling to pay.

    Sound familiar?

    Many small biz owners treat BAS like a nasty surprise – but it’s completely avoidable if you plan for it. Any case remember it’s not your money in the first place.

    ? The Fix:

    Every time you get paid, immediately transfer 25 – 30% into your Tax Account for taxes and BAS. Pretend it’s not yours. Because technically – it’s not. That’s the ATO’s cut.

    If you’re registered for GST, track your income and expenses monthly and lodge on time. Using software like Xero, QuickBooks, or even a simple spreadsheet will make this 10x easier.

    Imagine having a tax bill and already having the money sitting there ready. That’s the kind of peace The Edge helps you create.

    Mistake #5: Undercharging for Your Work

    This one hurts because you’re working hard, showing up, and doing great work… but the money just isn’t adding up.

    Often, it’s because you’re undercharging. Maybe you’re pricing based on what others charge, or you’re too scared to raise your rates in case you lose clients.

    But here’s the thing: if your pricing doesn’t cover your expenses, time off tools, admin time, and leave a profit – you’re not running a business. You’re running a charity.

    ? The Fix:

    • Add up everything it costs to run your business monthly (including paying yourself)
    • Work out how many hours you realistically work and how many jobs you can do
    • Divide your monthly costs by the number of billable hours or jobs – that’s your true minimum rate
    • Add a profit margin

    Also, factor in time spent quoting, driving, admin, and materials. You’re not just being paid for the hour on site, you’re being paid for all the time and expertise it takes to do the job well.

    In The Edge, we give you a simple pricing tool to calculate your true rate with confidence – so you never wonder, “Am I charging enough?” again.

    Bonus Tip: You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone

    Here’s the thing most people won’t tell you: money stress isn’t about how much you make. It’s about how you manage what you’ve got.

    And most small business owners were never taught how to do this. You’ve just been doing the best you can with what you know.

    But what if there was a better way?

    What if, in just 6 weeks, you could:

    ✅ Pay yourself regularly
    ✅ Get your tax sorted and stop panicking at BAS time
    ✅ Know your numbers and feel in control
    ✅ Charge with confidence
    ✅ Build a buffer so you’re never caught off guard
    ✅ Actually enjoy running your business again?

    Introducing: The Edge – Your 6-Week Business Financial Reset

    The Edge is a coaching program for tradies, franchisees and small business owners who are sick of just “getting by” and ready to build a business that actually pays them.

    Inside The Edge, you’ll get:

    ? Weekly coaching calls
    ? Easy-to-use templates and systems
    ? Real-life strategies that work for time-poor business owners
    ? Support and accountability from someone who gets it
    ? A full money makeover – without the financial jargon

    It’s not about being perfect – it’s about taking action, building structure, and finally feeling confident with your money.

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    Final Thoughts: You Can Fix This. Fast.

    The biggest money mistakes small business owners make aren’t about numbers, they’re about habits.
    If you’re not paying yourself, mixing finances, ignoring your numbers, or winging it at tax time… it’s costing you more than you know. Not just money, but peace of mind, time with your family, and the freedom you started your business for.

    You don’t have to keep doing it the hard way.

    Let’s fix it – fast, together, and for good.

    ? Ready to stop surviving and start thriving?

    Join The Edge 6-Week Coaching Program Now and get the tools, systems, and support you need to take control of your business money – once and for all.

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