Let’s talk about how stress maybe shortening your life.
And, how you can become better equipped to deal with stress related symptoms whenever you start to feel them come up.
Are you aware what stress is doing to your body?
You may think you do. But I’m here to share with you that some of the symptoms are not as obvious as you may think.
Here in Australia, The Australian Psychology Society produce a stress and wellbeing report.
The area that always catches my attention is how anxiety and depression levels have risen over the years.
The report also shows that financial issues continue to be the top stress over the last few years followed closely by the second top stress being family issues.
I’ve said this before that whenever there are financial issues and stress in a person’s life, their loved ones suffer immensely.
So what effect is this then having on our emotional side and physical body?
Well, stress affects a whole range of areas within our body when we feel pressured or overwhelmed.
If you take a look at this illustration you’ll see that it’s affecting many areas within your body, some are obvious while others may surprise you.
I want you to look at the left hand side of this diagram to see how first hand it’s affecting your emotions.
When your emotions are overloaded by stress, you become irritable, you may alienate yourself from others and your confidence drops.
When you’re under stress, your behaviour changes and you may become accident-prone, lose appetite, take up recreational drugs or alcohol, and/or start smoking.
And no surprise here that stress greatly affects your mind and mental well-being, where you may experience more anxiety, become negative or make impaired decisions and judgments where you otherwise wouldn’t have done.
The area that I see common with stressed out people is when they experience headaches, skin problems and become breathless.
But did you know that stress can have a detrimental affect on other areas within your body like, complaints either in the form of diarrhoea or heartburn.
In more severe cases, stress can also affect your heart. You may experience heart palpitations or even worse, a heart attack.
In some cases stress has know to be the start of more serious issues like cancer and diabetes.
So you can see it’s more important than ever to take care of yourself and look at what’s stressing you out.
For a lot of people money is the biggest stress as I’ve outlined early in findings by the Australian Psychology Well Being Survey.
While I don’t have a cure for how stress affects the body – I do have a solution that anyone can adopt where financial issues are part of their stress and that’s getting more information and knowledge about how money works.
Obtaining financial education to improve your money position is critical to living a healthy stress free life.
Getting the right financial education, support and coaching will alleviate financial stress if you are serious about improving the quality of your life.
What I offer is a full coaching service that’s affordable while you get the support, knowledge and help you require to make better and healthy financial decisions.
So if money stress is causing you problems then check out how you can work with me in the resources below.
Many people are doing way too much comparing and complaining about their lot in life and not stopping to see the gifts and blessings they really have.
As I share with people often, there is someone doing it tougher than you that would kill to have the life you’re living and not the one they’re currently experiencing themselves.
Why do you feel the need to compare whether someone appears to be doing better than you or has a better life than you?
Unless you’re walking in their shoes you don’t have a clue what’s going on behind closed doors.
I know too often that on the surface things appear for some to be looking really good, but underneath the murky waters, they’re experiencing pain and what we see is really not what’s being reflected.
Often it’s not money issues that are causing them the problem, it’s the way they feel about themselves that’s causing challenges in either their work, relationships or even with their health.
What really makes you happy?
Have you ever just stopped and thought about this?
Most wouldn’t have a clue about what makes them happy, because they’re too busy sticking their noses in other peoples business.
Give yourself the luxury of finding out what makes you happy.
What puts a smile on your face and what would make you want to jump out of bed in the morning instead of hitting the snooze button?
Time is going by so fast. I can’t stress that enough.
Just think back to the last 12 months how quickly that has that flown by. Think back to even last month how fast that’s gone.
Ok so I want you to stop and take a moment to imagine you are turning 80 years of age tomorrow.
Come on really imagine how you would look – grey hair, no grey hair or no hair at all. A little bit more wrinkly now and possibly some of your body parts are heading more south than you would like. Yeah, guys, this doesn’t just apply to us girls. Some of you guys have what was once called pectorals or pecks that are now considered “man boobs” and they’re heading south too.
Ok so getting back to imagining you are 80 years of age and you now have between 8 – 10 years left on this earth. 8 – 10 years to spend doing whatever you choose and with whom ever you choose.
How would you decide to spend the next 8 or so years of the remaining time of your life?
Let’s just say you’re still in reasonably good health.
Would you still be comparing or complaining, or would you just go and enjoy every moment and live the remaining years of your life, making sure they are the best years you’ve ever had?
Would you be worried about making a fool of yourself, or fearful of what others would think of you? I somehow think you wouldn’t and would care less about what people think or do.
So what are you waiting for?
Live your life like that now. Enjoy your time while you are here on earth and do what makes you truly happy inside.
If you knew that life was going to be shorter than expected….I bet you would be looking at life in a whole different way.
You would stop concerning yourself about whether this person texted you back, whether this person is gossiping about you, whether this person likes you and so on.
When you stop and appreciate all that you have in your life right here right now – you become happier and grateful that you’ve got it better than you thought.
I often remind my daughter that we live in one of the best counties in the world. We have an abundance of food, sunshine and freedom.
We are able to go outside without the fear of a bomb hitting us. We can go outside and see how green the grass is, how tall the trees are growing, how free birds fly and chirp around us. How we can go to the supermarket and get every conceivable food or beverage we choose.
We have a choice.
You have a choice to live your life the way you want.
For most of us we were born with free will but the sad part is that a lot of us are choosing to be victims – trapped in our own head by our own thoughts.
Every choice you make will either enhance your spirit and self worth or drain it.
When you’re not happy living the life you so desire you’re actually betraying yourself. And it’s no wonder you bitch and complain and pick holes in other people. It’s why you’re so quick and easy to bring other people down.
Because you’re not happy and you’re letting yourself down – nobody else.
We all have free will.
We all have choices that we can make about the kind of life we want to live.
One with misery or one with absolute joy.
Are you making everyday choices that are harming you?
I believe we create the path we choose to live. Some of us have decided to start living with more joy and love in our heart.
The worst betrayal by not living this way is to yourself!
What I’ve observed is that it’s not until someone reaches that certain age in life that they start to question their existence. They question the choices they’ve made. They question the things they did or didn’t do.
The power of choice!
The most powerful choice you make in life is not the house you buy, how many children you have, the partner you choose or don’t choose or what type of work you do.
The most powerful choice of all is the life you choose to live. How you treat your mind, how you treat your health and how you treat other people. These to me are the most powerful choices you can make in your every day life.
Why, because it determines the kind of life you live and how truly happy you are and this determines the quality of your life and your health.
If you choose to live a life of misery, always comparing or gossiping about other people – you are living a very short and limited life.
So do yourself a favour and stop comparing or complaining about your lot in life and look around to discover how good you have it compared to other people.
Learn to be gracious and grateful for the wonderful gifts you have in your life whether it’s your health, your relationships, your family, your work or the very place you’re fortunate to live in.
When you’re grateful, you become a happier and healthier person.
If you’re looking to discover how you can become happier and compare less then I have a worksheet that can assist you in living a happier life. Download your worksheet HERE
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For a while now I’ve been fascinated with the mirage of advice and sharing on what the best morning routine is, whether you’re out working a job or working from home.
Today while I was getting ready for the start of my day, I was reflecting on how does a morning routine really affect whether we have a productive, happy day or not?
I wanted to do some research into this trend on talking about our morning routine and see if there is any truth to the benefits of having one.
You see the majority of us have a morning routine whether we like it or not.
We all get up to start our day, shower (well some do), brush our teeth, hair and get dressed before heading to the kitchen to either eat breakfast or start our day off with our favourite beverage either coffee, tea, smoothy or whatever takes our fancy. Most of this is done all before heading out the door or to our desk to start our working day.
But I want to find out more about the “morning routine” that I hear the high achievers do at the beginning of their day.
First, let me share with you the common one that I’ve read time and time again and it goes something like this….
Plan out your morning the night before.
Set your alarm to wake up earlier.
Drink a glass of water upon waking
Move and exercise your body first thing when you get up.
Stay off tech and your devices for the first hour upon waking.
Before heading to work or your desk – spend time journalling and writing down your intentions for the day / week.
This is the usual take on what a morning routine looks like according to experts.
Continuing on with my research these are the top 5 searches on google that people are asking on this very subject:
What should my morning routine be?
What you should do every morning?
What should be your daily routine?
What is the first thing you do every morning?
What is the miracle morning routine?
Why are we so fascinated with ensuring we have ourselves a top notch morning routine?
Well, what I found out in reading loads of articles and researching the various books available on Amazon it’s really very simple.
It’s all about being organised to the point that you know what your major objective or project is that you want to achieve for the day and week ahead.
And it’s all about making the time without delay and interruptions to completing the designated tasks or projects.
Because at the end of the day we all want to feel like we’ve achieved and completed what we’ve set out to do.
This sounds great, but that’s easier said than done.
Something gets in the way of us achieving what we want to do and that is procrastination.
Procrastination is one of the biggest self sabotages in our life. People often procrastinate because they’re afraid of failing at the tasks that they need to complete.
This fear of failure can promote procrastination in various ways, such as by causing people to avoid finishing or even starting the task in the first place.
So one way to combat this is to plan the night before what you want to achieve for the next day.
This already sets out the intention on what you are going to do once you’re ready to start your day and saves valuable time, when you get to your desk or work place.
I believe that this is one area that when I plan out exactly what I’m going to do the night before, I just get in without delay and waste no time at all getting on with what I’ve set out to do for the day.
I also find that at the beginning of the week I already know what I can expect to achieve for the rest of that week.
What I have noticed that the times I haven’t done this I’ve wasted many a good day and week achieving “bugger all”, which is super frustrating and annoying especially when you have an expectation of getting things done on your list.
Next what I find is that when I adopt a healthy attitude towards food and moving my body I achieve way more in my day.
I’m not talking about heading to the gym for an hour long session here I’m talking about being aware that your body needs to stretch first thing in the morning to wake it up and I’m talking about being aware of what you put in your mouth all day long.
Because I don’t know about you, but what I’ve found is that when I eat healthier and make healthy food choices, I feel better mentally and physically.
Now as for writing down in a journal your intentions and gratitude for the day.
I have mixed feelings about this.
Firstly, sometimes I forget to write in my journal first thing in the morning because I have so many other things to get sorted being a working Mum.
So for me, what I find more valuable is writing in my journal at night.
I generally grab my journal and write down the kind of day I’ve had whether good or bad and I also write down how I’m feeling.
What I find by doing it a night I allow myself to get out of my head some of the things that may have been bothering me. It also allows me to write down what I’ve thankful and grateful for.
So do I agree with what the experts say you should do upon waking – yep most of it but I feel we all need to adopt what works for us in the morning and whether that’s getting up early, stretching or writing in a journal that’s completely up to you.
I do feel that deciding what you want to do or achieve the following day is best to do that the night before as it not only saves time but gives you a clear direction on how to start your day.
At the end of the day just do what works for you and makes you feel good.
So whether you adopt some of the rituals that I’ve shared above or come up with your own morning routine and habits, either way it’s about just getting on with the job at hand and making sure you have a good day.
If you’d like more support and help to achieve more in your day then why not head over to my MONTHLY COACHING program where you will feel supported and loved during your financial and emotional journey.
Look forward to seeing you there.
In the meantime, here’s to your health, wealth and happiness.
As I start the year off preparing for what I plan to achieve and share with you this coming year, I came across an article I wrote 2 years ago but never published.
I thought back and wondered why I wrote these inspirational thoughts?
On reflection, it was because at that time my Dad lost 3 of his brothers (my uncles) and his best mate all in the same year and who were all in their 70’s.
I also realised that last year I wrote a ton of stuff whether it be educational or inspirational but sadly never shared it with you my reader.
So today is the day that I promise to share more financial and mindset content that in the hope helps and benefits people in my community.
Here’s what I’ve learned these past 12 months:
1. Random acts of kindness are rare today. When you do something nice for someone without expecting anything in return, you may have just brightened up their day without knowing it.
2. If someone is unkind to you unless you’ve done something terribly horrible to them – it’s not about you – it’s about them and the challenges they may be facing behind the scenes.
3. Don’t judge anybody or any situation – you never know what someone is going through. Just because they put on a brave and smiling face, it doesn’t mean they are having a good time at life!
4. True friends are the ones that after months of not seeing them – don’t get upset or offended but greet you as if they just saw you the other day.
5. If people don’t acknowledge you – it’s ok. They may not have seen you like you think they have or if they have – possibly have a lot on their mind.
6. Money may not grow on trees – however if you work not only hard but smart – you will be growing your own tree that will look after you for many years to come.
7. Treasure the loved ones in your life – as you never know how long they will be here for.
8. When you look at exercise in a different way, other than to lose weight – amazing transformations happen – not only physically but your mind becomes super fit and sharp. Now that’s a bonus worth exercising for!
9. Love where you live – no matter on the size of your house or location. When you really love where you live – happiness appears from the corners of each room.
And, stop and smell the roses – I mean REALLY stop and smell the roses and get out in nature. It’s God and the Universe’s way of showing you all the beauty that surrounds you daily!
So while I wrote this 2 years ago, it still rings true for me today and has become even more important for me to follow the steps to achieve more happiness and fun in my life.
What have you learned over the past 12 months that you’ve decided you don’t want anymore and long to bring more of this year?
Leave me a comment below as I’d love to hear.
So until next time, wishing you more health, wealth and happiness this year.
Overwhelm is on the rise and it’s happening more and more to us good folks.
It’s not just because we’re approaching the end of the year but emotions are high with more of us feeling increasingly stressed out for various reasons.
The months leading up to Christmas can be a very stressful time as you may know, with so many things put into high speed to finish off before we break for the holidays.
The feeling of overwhelm is so stressful that at times feels like your head is about to explode.
Overwhelm can come from many areas. It can come from how you’re feeling about your money, your relationships, your work environment and overall the expectations you put on yourself. Yes, it can come from a whole variety of areas.
A little while ago, I was feeling very overwhelmed and it came from a place of sheer exhaustion from work and what I had expected to happen. I had put myself under enormous pressure and because I hadn’t hit my goal of being at a certain place in my business I just broke down.
My husband David I don’t think has ever seen me like this. Normally I’m the one that keeps things ticking along, I’m also the upbeat, happy and positive person in our family, but this wasn’t the case that day.
I just broke down from tiredness, doing too many long hours and trying to figure out how I can get everything done before we break for the Christmas school holidays that was fast approaching.
Having a feeling of overwhelm can bring on anxiety or panic attacks and issues like anxiety can have a detrimental effect on our health.
It’s where everything just feels like it’s on top of you and there is no way out.
One of the ways to identify if you are feeling overwhelmed is to look at what you’ve got going on in your life.
You see we are often pulled in so many directions whether this is in our personal, family, work-life, or even with maintaining our friendships.
Let’s not forget about the pressure to fit in exercise and healthy eating choices so that our bodies are nourished and looked after to ensure we live a long and healthy life.
I know part of my overwhelm is the constant pressure I put on myself to eat healthily and fit in some form of exercise so I can feel better about myself.
One of the major areas for overwhelm is when it comes to our money and it tends to be the number one stress for a lot of people.
For some, it’s the feeling of overwhelm or helplessness on how to improve their financial position that gets extremely overwhelming.
Part of my overwhelm was not only putting myself under work pressure but feeling frustrated that I have pulled much out of our savings account to start a business and get it to the stage today where I am able to become self-sufficient from coaching gorgeous clients.
That for most business owners is a major stress – managing cash flow and ensuring their business is making a profit at the end of the day.
By not dealing or identifying when we are feeling overwhelmed – it can quickly escalate and take its toll on us not only emotionally but physically.
We may sometimes lack confidence in the ability to achieve what we’ve set out to do.
And we become very irritable and unhappy when this occurs.
Like I mentioned before there is the potential for our health to suffer in the process, whether stomach complaints or the onset of anxiety and depression.
The very first thing to do is understand why you’re feeling overwhelmed?
Are you trying to be everything to everyone?
Could you be trying to focus on too many things at once? or
Possibly you’re being too optimistic about how much time it will take to do a particular task.
Maybe you’re just not saying “NO” to people who may be taking up more time from you than you have to give at the moment.
For me, it is trying to do everything and be everything in my business.
So take a look at what’s causing you to feel overwhelmed and see where you can make life a little easier for you.
After you’re clearer what’s causing you to feel overwhelmed start with these 5 simple tips to get things back under control and in balance.
1 First and foremost take a deep breath.
2 write down every task, project or event whether for work or family and get it down on paper. Then look to see if you can delegate any of the areas that you feel you just can not handle anymore. If you’re a working parent or stay at home parent and just can’t seem to get on top of things around the house – maybe you could consider hiring a cleaner once a week or fortnight to help. This is one area that doesn’t cost a fortune and will take enormous pressure off with the many other tasks busy people & parents have on their plate.
3 Next focus on what’s important to you and what priorities you need to get done. Most importantly look to decide what your priorities are any learn to say NO without any guilt associated to any colleague, family or friend you feel maybe encroaching on the limited time you have to get your stuff done.
4 Ask for help when you feel those overwhelming feelings come up. Never be too proud to ask someone to help you when you start to feel overwhelmed. You will be surprised at how many people will offer to help out when you’re feeling under the pump.
AND then…
5 Be kind to yourself and remember you only one person and can only do so much.
To help when those feelings of overwhelm come up, I have a worksheet you can download that will get you thinking where your time is being spent and how certain areas within your life may be overloading your brain and the ability to achieve more in your life.
Loneliness is not just for the elderly either sitting at home or in nursing care waiting to die.
It’s a very real feeling for a lot of people today for all ages, with or without family.
In fact, a study done by an American health insurance provider Cigna showed that younger people Gen Z have the highest loneliness score, followed by millennials and then Gen X.
Today we are feeling more isolated and lonely than ever before and we are more disconnected in part because of technology.
While technology has helped many of us connect with loved ones and friends who we haven’t seen or kept in touch with for some time, we are more alone than ever before.
Studies have found that despite being more connected, more people feel more alone than ever.
So it seems that because technology makes it easier to stay in touch more and more people find themselves feeling distant and never having any human contact.
We human beings crave intimacy and human contact We crave that connectivity where we can talk face to face.
From my own experience, I’m busier than ever however, at times it feels that having loads to do doesn’t always fill up my happy cup.
I was thinking back to when we use to just go out with friends and have a good time without having to worry about posing for that perfect snap to share on social media and to tell the world yeah we’re having a good time!
What’s wrong with just enjoying the moment with the special people that we’re out with and keeping those snaps for our own memories or for sharing later after the event?
Loneliness might not seem like a medical problem but it can impact your overall health and wellbeing.
I remember watching a show where they brought kindergarten kids into a nursing care centre to help brighten up the residents day.
One older man remarked before the kids came in that he felt he was just waiting to die. He was so grateful for the kids who showed him some kindness, laughter and fun and it reminded him that there’s still more life in him yet.
This situation is not just limited to the elderly in nursing care.
Loneliness can come about when people have partners, whether married or not.
The study from Cigna asked about relationships and 43% of respondents said that they sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not “meaningful.”
The same percentage of participants said they sometimes or always felt isolated from others, even those closest to them.
How many times have we seen people on their phones out for dinner and are not communicating but looking at their device instead.
Couples are not talking as much as they use to and I often laugh when I see couples talking to each via their social media posts.
I’ve heard from friends and seen it for myself that while hanging out to engage and talk with our partners – the other is on their phone appearing to be more interested in other people’s lives than their own.
Maybe that’s why there are more relationship breakdowns?
I use to think a lot had to do with money but I’m wondering whether it’s a 50/50 between no communication and no money?
So it seems that because technology makes it easier to stay in touch, more and more people find themselves feeling distant and never having that true connection. Or at least not enough to avoid the feelings of being alone.
Loneliness can be overcome, but it does require a conscious effort on your part to make a change. Making a change, in the long run, can make you happier, healthier, and enable you to impact others around you in a positive way.
Here are ways to prevent and overcome loneliness:
1.Identify that when those feelings of loneliness and unhappiness come about to look at ways you can change by doing something, whether it be volunteering, going for a walk, meeting a friend, finding groups in your community that offer activities that you’re interested in and go do them.
2. Talk to your partner or friends and suggest some real conversation by putting down the devices.
3. Understand the effects that loneliness has on your life, both physically and mentally.
4. Look at ways to cultivate new friendships by joining a club or join a “meetup group” that offers something you’re interested in and gets you meeting new people.
5. Focus on developing quality relationships with people who share similar attitudes, interests, and values with you.
6. Lonely people often expect rejection, so instead focus on positive thoughts and attitudes in your social relationships.
Loneliness can have an overall effect on your health, so be sure to look at including some of the suggestions I’ve shared above, so it doesn’t affect your health and wellbeing.
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Until next time, here’s to your health, wealth and happiness.
