We’ve all had those moments standing at the checkout, second-guessing a purchase, or staring at a bank statement, feeling a wave of regret. Maybe you’ve told yourself, “I’m just bad with money,” or, “I can’t trust myself to make good financial decisions.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth: you are not inherently bad with money. You just need to rebuild your financial confidence.
Financial confidence isn’t about knowing every investment strategy or becoming a budgeting master overnight. It’s about trusting yourself to make empowered, intentional choices with your money without fear, guilt, or self-doubt.
So how do you start trusting yourself with money again? Let’s dive into the formula that can help you regain control and move forward with confidence.
STEP 1: Reframe Your Money Story
The beliefs you have about money shape how you handle it. If you’ve experienced financial struggles in the past, it’s easy to assume that you’ll always struggle. But that’s not true you are constantly evolving, and your financial reality can evolve with you.
Take a moment to reflect: What are the money stories you’ve been telling yourself? Do you believe money is hard to earn? Do you think you’re destined to be in debt? Once you identify these limiting beliefs, challenge them. Instead of saying, “I’m terrible with money,” try, “I am learning to manage my money with confidence.” Words matter, and so does your mindset.

STEP 2: Small Wins Lead to Big Confidence
Trust isn’t built overnight it’s created through consistent actions. If you’ve been avoiding your finances out of fear, start small. Set up a weekly “money date” with yourself to review your finances, even if it’s just for 15 minutes. Celebrate the small victories, like paying a bill on time or choosing to cook at home instead of eating out. These small wins add up, reinforcing the belief that you are capable of managing your money wisely.
STEP 3: Shift from Fear to Curiosity
Many people feel anxious when they look at their bank account, but what if you approached your finances with curiosity instead of fear? Instead of saying, “I don’t even want to look at my balance,” try asking yourself, “I wonder what I can learn from my spending habits this month?” By shifting your mindset, you turn financial management into a tool for empowerment rather than a source of stress.
STEP 4: Align Your Spending with Your Values
One of the fastest ways to feel good about your money is to ensure your spending reflects what truly matters to you. If financial guilt is a recurring theme, it may be because you’re spending in ways that don’t align with your priorities.
Ask yourself: What do I value most in life? If it’s family, are you investing in quality time with loved ones? If it’s health, are you prioritising your well-being over impulse purchases? When your spending aligns with your values, financial confidence follows naturally.
STEP 5: Give Yourself Permission to Learn
No one is born knowing how to manage money perfectly. Mistakes will happen, but they don’t define you. What matters is how you respond. Instead of beating yourself up over a financial misstep, treat it as a learning experience.
Ask: “What can I do differently next time?” This shift in perspective turns every challenge into an opportunity for growth, reinforcing your ability to trust yourself.
STEP 5: Give Yourself Permission to Learn
Confidence grows in the right environment. If you’ve been struggling alone, it may be time to seek out support whether that’s a financial coach, a community of like-minded individuals, or access to the right financial education.
That’s why I created my Monthly Coaching program, giving you access to The Vault a treasure trove of financial resources, courses, and guidance to help you build the skills and mindset necessary for long-term success. And if you’re ready to take full control of your finances, my Master Your Money program will guide you through everything you need to know to transform your financial future.
Final Thoughts
Rebuilding financial confidence isn’t about perfection it’s about progress. Every positive step you take strengthens your trust in yourself. You are fully capable of making empowered financial choices, and your journey starts today.
Take the first step, celebrate your wins, and remember: you are not alone in this. With the right mindset, tools, and support, you can rewrite your financial story and step into a future filled with confidence and abundance.
Are you ready to take control? Let’s do this together!