How To Deal With Overwhelm

Dec 17, 2019 | Building Emotional Muscle, Episodes, Mindset, Self Development

Overwhelm is on the rise and it’s happening more and more to us good folks.

It’s not just because we’re approaching the end of the year but emotions are high with more of us feeling increasingly stressed out for various reasons.

The months leading up to Christmas can be a very stressful time as you may know, with so many things put into high speed to finish off before we break for the holidays.

The feeling of overwhelm is so stressful that at times feels like your head is about to explode.

Overwhelm can come from many areas.  It can come from how you’re feeling about your money, your relationships, your work environment and overall the expectations you put on yourself. Yes, it can come from a whole variety of areas.

A little while ago, I was feeling very overwhelmed and it came from a place of sheer exhaustion from work and what I had expected to happen.  I had put myself under enormous pressure and because I hadn’t hit my goal of being at a certain place in my business I just broke down.

My husband David I don’t think has ever seen me like this.  Normally I’m the one that keeps things ticking along, I’m also the upbeat, happy and positive person in our family, but this wasn’t the case that day.

I just broke down from tiredness, doing too many long hours and trying to figure out how I can get everything done before we break for the Christmas school holidays that was fast approaching.

Having a feeling of overwhelm can bring on anxiety or panic attacks and issues like anxiety can have a detrimental effect on our health.

It’s where everything just feels like it’s on top of you and there is no way out.

One of the ways to identify if you are feeling overwhelmed is to look at what you’ve got going on in your life.

You see we are often pulled in so many directions whether this is in our personal, family, work-life, or even with maintaining our friendships.

Let’s not forget about the pressure to fit in exercise and healthy eating choices so that our bodies are nourished and looked after to ensure we live a long and healthy life.

I know part of my overwhelm is the constant pressure I put on myself to eat healthily and fit in some form of exercise so I can feel better about myself.

One of the major areas for overwhelm is when it comes to our money and it tends to be the number one stress for a lot of people.

For some, it’s the feeling of overwhelm or helplessness on how to improve their financial position that gets extremely overwhelming.

Part of my overwhelm was not only putting myself under work pressure but feeling frustrated that I have pulled much out of our savings account to start a business and get it to the stage today where I am able to become self-sufficient from coaching gorgeous clients.

That for most business owners is a major stress – managing cash flow and ensuring their business is making a profit at the end of the day.

By not dealing or identifying when we are feeling overwhelmed – it can quickly escalate and take its toll on us not only emotionally but physically.

We may sometimes lack confidence in the ability to achieve what we’ve set out to do.

And we become very irritable and unhappy when this occurs.

Like I mentioned before there is the potential for our health to suffer in the process, whether stomach complaints or the onset of anxiety and depression.

The very first thing to do is understand why you’re feeling overwhelmed?

• Are you trying to be everything to everyone?
• Could you be trying to focus on too many things at once?  or
• Possibly you’re being too optimistic about how much time it will take to do a particular task.
• Maybe you’re just not saying “NO” to people who may be taking up more time from you than you have to give at the moment.

For me, it is trying to do everything and be everything in my business.

So take a look at what’s causing you to feel overwhelmed and see where you can make life a little easier for you.

After you’re clearer what’s causing you to feel overwhelmed start with these 5 simple tips to get things back under control and in balance.

1 First and foremost take a deep breath.

2 write down every task, project or event whether for work or family and get it down on paper.  Then look to see if you can delegate any of the areas that you feel you just can not handle anymore.  If you’re a working parent or stay at home parent and just can’t seem to get on top of things around the house – maybe you could consider hiring a cleaner once a week or fortnight to help.  This is one area that doesn’t cost a fortune and will take enormous pressure off with the many other tasks busy people & parents have on their plate.

3 Next focus on what’s important to you and what priorities you need to get done.    Most importantly look to decide what your priorities are any learn to say NO without any guilt associated to any colleague, family or friend you feel maybe encroaching on the limited time you have to get your stuff done.

4 Ask for help when you feel those overwhelming feelings come up.  Never be too proud to ask someone to help you when you start to feel overwhelmed.  You will be surprised at how many people will offer to help out when you’re feeling under the pump.

AND then…

5 Be kind to yourself and remember you only one person and can only do so much.

To help when those feelings of overwhelm come up, I have a worksheet you can download that will get you thinking where your time is being spent and how certain areas within your life may be overloading your brain and the ability to achieve more in your life.

Download the worksheet at RESOURCES

How is overwhelming crippling you and how are you learning to handle it?

Leave me a comment on your thoughts about overwhelm and let me know if you enjoyed this article.

Until next time, here’s to your health, wealth and happiness.