Let’s talk about how your thoughts, views and what you possibly heard when growing up is seeing you still miserable and poor!
Your attitude combined with who taught you about money – has shaped the way you live today whether you are experiencing financial stress or have money behind you and living a stress-free life.
I want you to answer this question?
Who was your role model, who did you learn your money management skills from while growing up?
Did your parents or grandparents ever talk to you about money?
Having conversations around the dinner table while growing up about money is equally as important as the “Birds n Bees” talk that most of us are given at a certain age – if you know what I mean.
They say talking about money is taboo but I disagree. If you don’t start talking about money how are you ever going to learn about managing it more effectively?
Whether you grew up talking about how to save and use money wisely or not has shaped your perception today on how you live your life and what kind of a lifestyle you have created for yourself.
You will either have money in the bank or spend every dollar you earn.
You see 80% of us are managing our money out of sheer habit with no real understanding why and this has adverse effects down the track if you haven’t got a grasp on how to work it well. As it can either make or break the quality of our life in years to come.
I was having this very conversation with my Mum a while back and she was commenting that money was never talked about. There was never the education around this subject like she said is starting to happen today.
“Mum went on to say that it’s not until you retire that you start to feel the pressure or relief of how you worked your money. She stressed that saving is not a thing for today’s generation and she wished they knew the real power of this as she said it’s going to make a huge difference to the quality of someone’s life at the end of their working life”.
We are sadly creatures of habit. We do the same things over and over again often expecting to get different results but of course, we’re going to get the same results if we don’t change our thinking or our habits.
If you have decided you want a better life, then you have to look at what your belief is around money.
What did you hear growing up about money?
I’m guessing a few of these saying probably popped up and has created in some part a belief system to which you manage your money today.
Money doesn’t grow on trees.
It takes money to make money.
Some people, without a doubt, have more dollars than sense
He who has the gold makes the rules
A good name is better than riches.
Health is better than wealth.
Money is the root of all evil
You can’t take it with you when you die – now that’s spoken like a true spender lol! and the last common saying you may have heard is …AND
Money isn’t everything
Another contributing factor to what you may have heard about money is through sources like:
TV and regular news bulletins – which the media is great at giving you the grim view about financial markets and money today. They thrive off the negative stories.
How many times do you hear positive news stories about everyday people making it big (yes we hear about the lotto win stories) but over time we know that if those winning the lotto haven’t got a handle on how to manage money then in a few short years they will be back to where they started before winning.
Another popular source for hearing about money is when catching up with friends, especially from those friends that consider themselves a wiz at investing.
Offering you their 2 cents worth of knowledge on how they made a fair bit of money on xyz stock or a particular investment, but never how much they lost during the process. I challenge you to ask them how much they have lost up to that point!
There are so many areas to hear and learn about financial education.
A word of caution though to check where you’re getting your information from to see if it’s from a reliable source.
AND always trust your gut instinct because if it looks too good to be true then it probably is.
The subconscious is such a powerful thing that what you think about all day long is what you attract and this applies especially to your lack or abundant thinking about money.
When we keep saying to ourself ….oh we have no money… we’re poor…. we’re never going to get ahead then that’s what you’re going to keep getting.
But when you say to yourself, ok I’ve got this I’m going to keep putting money away and not touch it. I’m going to use cash for a while to curb my spending. I’m going to get there and we’re going to be debt free in no time then you will.
Keeping a positive mindset is one thing but actually doing the thing that’s going to free you up financially is another and both go hand in hand.
So what could you do today to change the way you think about money?
Motivational sayings are especially good when you feel a negative or disbelieving thought come up.
Having a massive belief in yourself that you’re going to make it is another way to change things.
Watch how things start to improve when you combine a positive mindset with activity and action.
Three facts about money I’m going to leave with you are:
Having good money habits takes enormous pressure and stress off you worrying about how you can afford to live day to day.
Having an awesome mindset can move you from poor money habits to good money habits, and
Lastly, anyone can change their belief around money if you decide to choose to, regardless of how you grew up and where you came from.
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If you had the magical power to change your life into what you really desired it to be like, would you exercise that power?
Of course, you would!
First, you would have to strip away the fantasy and then you would have to get down to the nuts and bolts of what you would really want for yourself.
Most people, for a number of reasons, never get past the fantasy stage.
Some are not aware they really could make the change, while others are too lazy or throw up excuses and complaints. After all, change does requires effort.
So get really serious for a moment and ask yourself ………….. are you prepared to do the work to achieve the life you truly desire?
Are you?
Let’s do a little exercise for the moment.
I want you to imagine you are now 90 years of age.
Yep, a little wrinkly possibly still living at home or moved in with loved ones or maybe you’re living in an aged care facility.
Take a moment to imagine your older self.
Now what you’re going to do is write down all the things you have done, experienced and achieved up to this point. Remember you’re writing it down as a 90 year old!
You’re going to write down all the personal fun you’ve experienced, romantic partners, the adventures and holiday you’ve taken, the homes you’ve lived in, the cars you’ve driven and the lifestyle you created for you and your family.
Once you’ve written what you’ve experienced and achieved, next write down how this makes you feel.
So, how are you feeling, are you smiling and feeling happy with joy or maybe you’re laughing to yourself that you’re a little exhausted about a life well lived?
Did you live the life you had always hoped and dreamed of?
What did you achieve in those last 50 or so years of your life?
Did you live the life you truly wanted and desired?
Were there many memories and fun times?
Did you get to travel to some exotic places?
Have you lived a very comfortable life and without money concerns?
Is it fun to be able to spoil your family with the money you have accumulated during your working years? and
Is your heart warm with joy from being able to have given to the many charities of your choice?
If you’re looking back and happy with what you’ve achieved – well done this means you’ve worked hard, made the right choices in how you managed your money so you didn’t have to worry about money during your retirement years.
Now is the time to make the change. Time to get your money sorted and working hard, while you continue accumulating during your working years.
The 3 keys ways to do this is to;
SAVING. Keep putting a certain amount away (minimum of 10%) at payday into a set and forget account.
BALANCE. Ensure your spending is well under your earning capacity, and not spending more than you earn.
GROWING. Learning how to grow and invest your money while you work by making additional contributions into your superannuation fund.
Here in Australia, we’re fortunate as it’s compulsory for Australian employers to put a percentage of an employee’s salary into a nominated super fund.
For my overseas readers take advantage of the superannuation opportunities offered in your country while you can, as this will boost your retirement options considerably.
There are other opportunities to grow your wealth either by investing in direct shares, managed funds or looking at property investing.
Whatever investment option you choose make sure it’s one that you’re comfortable with and you sleep easily at night not worrying about what happens when the investment market moves up and down.
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When life suddenly throws you a curveball whether the signs were there or not and you haven’t prepared yourself for what’s about to come, it can send you into a spin and see you experience massive stress and anxiety.
Financial & Relationship stress go hand in hand and it’s still the number one trigger point for most.
When a relationship breaks down and you’re left to sort out where to go and what to do – money stress is ever-present.
Not only are you dealing with the emotional stress of the relationship breakdown, but you’re now having to deal with where to live, how to survive and then there’s the issue about money which is about to get very messy.
Then if children are involved a whole other issue about custody arrangements and financial support start coming into play.
It’s like you’re in the middle of a soap opera and left emotionally drained.
When an event like this is triggered a person will feel a whole bunch of overwhelming feelings like sadness, anxiety, or even experience panic attacks.
What happens next is that our body goes into one of the “fight, flight or freeze modes” and our heart beats faster and our senses go on high alert. Also our brain stops some of its normal functions to deal with the threat we may be feeling or experiencing.
If this has happened to you or you can see life is about to dramatically change then get some help.
Firstly, find someone who is unbiased and independent and someone who doesn’t know you or the situation that you’re about to experience.
When people are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out they sometimes don’t make decisions that are in their best interests or health.
If you know of someone or you yourself, are feeling any form of stress then get some help. You don’t have to do this alone. There are people and organisations that can help.
Be on the lookout for the SYMPTOMS that stress can produce:
PHYSICALLY
Tiredness, headaches, accidents, tightness in neck and shoulders, restlessness, ulcers, hypertension, respiratory problems, diarrhoea or constipation, chest pain, back pain, upset stomach, skin problems, weight loss or gain.
If stress is experienced for long periods of time it can result in physical, mental and emotional exhaustion or ‘burnout’.
STAY CONNECTED
We need to look out for one another, stay connected and ask if we’re ok.
If your gut is telling you that you’re not ok or that someone close to you is not, then make sure you’re there for them. More often than not they’ll say they’re ok and will remain silent while living with their pain.
SUPPORT
Here in Australia, we have an organisation called Lifeline which is a national charity that has been providing assistance to Australians experiencing difficulties for over 55 years.
If you’re reading this and not in Australia then seek out your country’s support network to ensure you get help and are not dealing with this alone.
In Australia, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 anytime as they’re available 24 hours a day.
WHAT TO DO NEXT
I have created a tool kit to help you identify when you’re feeling overwhelmed about what to do.
Other resources I have available is my monthly coaching program which is a fraction of the cost than other coaching programs at $37 per month and with no lock-in contracts. You can exit whenever you choose.
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2 years ago my Grandmother passed away. She was one of the best money managers I’ve seen. She passed her skill down to my Mum who then passed this onto me as I was growing up.
Grandma was very careful with her money as she grew up during the era of the Great Depression. Grandma saw the suffering that went with it – no jobs, no food and barely enough of anything to get by on.
So, when she got married and had a family of her own she continued on with the scarcity mentality and saved any penny she got.
Gramps was the sole breadwinner in the family and back then didn’t earn a lot. Gramps would often say that Grandma was great with managing their money.
So on Thursday’s which happened to be Gramps’ payday – she would divide up the money 3 ways.
First, she would pull money for savings, then put aside money for bills and lastly give Gramps his allocated spending for the week. If she didn’t do this Gramps would have spent the lot – as he was a very generous person and loved to give to charities and those less fortunate.
Grandma use to tell him often that charity first begins at home! Wise lady and well before her time.
Grandma had several spots within the house that she used to stash the cash around. Let’s just say she had the most expensive potatoes I ever knew ☺
While she was careful with their money she also made sure they enjoyed it too. Taking trips that had been planned and saved up for.
They retired wealthy by today’s standards and lucky they did as they eventually had to move into age care, which costs a small fortune to get in.
The point of this story is that no matter what you earn you can retire wealthy if you learn how to save and use your money wisely.
But there’s got to be a balance in life.
Saving and hoarding away money is great – but you must enjoy it along the way.
Today we’re seeing more of the extreme with some of us having no savings and loads of spending going on.
I think we’ve gone too far from our grandparents’ age – to the new age of live for today and don’t worry about tomorrow.
The harsh reality is that tomorrow is just around the corner and creeps up on you before you realise.
While you may not think too much about the future, it will be here before you know it.
If you haven’t planned for it – life will get a little uncomfortable for you.
As you get older the things that your money is used for changes.
For eg; when you are in your 20’s you’re about having a good time, meeting someone special and travelling.
When you reach your 30’s it’s about settling down with that special person, buying a house and starting a family – for the majority of people.
Then you hit your 40’s and by then if you’ve had children they are well-entrenched into the school system and you have hopefully chunked off a sizeable amount of your mortgage, whilst watching your savings and investments grow.
Then years down the track you’re retired and money that you receive from the pension or your own retirement savings is used to pay medical costs and pharmaceuticals to keep away the aches and pains from a well-lived life.
Starting to get the picture?
Well, this scenario has now been completely turned on its arse because when you hit your 40’s there are no savings or very little for most.
You’re up to your eyeballs in mortgage payments and possibly other debt and family life may not have turned out as expected. As you’re either getting divorced or having some financial stress because of the state of your financial affairs.
It’s time to get the balance back people!
Here are Grandma’s Tips :
1. Firstly, stop spending everything you earn. Yes, it’s easier said than done I agree considering you’re in the habit of spend spend spend. But you’ve got to start somewhere.
2. Put away a small portion of what you earn away before you use it to spend and pay your bills. I recommend putting away a minimum of 10% into an account that you can’t touch. An account with no account keeping fees and one that 10% of your pay automatically goes into this account on payday. An account that is separate from your current banking. There are a few around so do your research, set up an automatic deposit and watch your savings grow.
3. Do a budget to work out where every dollar is going. This is going to be an eye-opener for a lot of you because half of you don’t even know where your money is going or what it’s being spent on. Start writing down or using an excel spreadsheet to record where you’re spending. Keep receipts, check your bank statements and record everything from the big stuff that you’re spending or paying out on the little things like a cup of coffee. Once it’s down on paper take a good look at what’s going out compared to what’s coming in.
4. Next start using cash. So when you head to the grocery store you’ll soon learn that there’s a lot of things being bought at the checkout that you could probably rein in more. When heading out for dinner take some cash to pay for your meal, if you don’t you’ll soon learn that your meal is costing you more than you realise. What you probably thought was a $50 dinner & drinks out ends up costing you closer to $100.
5. And the last thing is to save up for purchases. Don’t put stuff on your credit card that is going to be out of date before you’ve even paid them off. Save up for the non-essentials and go without for just a little longer until you have the cash to pay for it. My guess is that by the time you’ve saved up you’ve probably lost interest in the thing or gadget that was going to clutter up your house anyway.
The moral of the story is to…..work hard, save hard and learn more how to manage your money smarter. Invest some time and resources in getting some sound financial education that could see you, in the long run, retiring with money instead of being broke and living off social welfare benefits.
Don’t believe me then do the math and see how much you’re spending. Keep going the way you are – not changing your spending habits and you’re going to very unhappy, miserable and without a dollar to your name at the end of your working days.
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Changing a money habit is NOT merely a matter of saying… yep, I’m not going to spend everything I earn this payday or I’m not going to overspend on my credit card this month from impulse buying.
Poor money habits I believe come from a deeper concern than just spending on meaningless stuff. Stuff that half of the time we don’t need or even use.
So where do these money habits come from?
Well before I answer this. I want to remind you what an actual habit is.
A habit is a behaviour that is learned when we regularly keep doing the same thing over and over again without even thinking.
Money habits are no different than the habit of brushing your teeth when you first get up in the morning or after breakfast. It’s a behaviour that becomes ingrained in how we treat and respect our money. One that we are fully aware of the consequences that follow if our habits are from poor money decisions.
Is there a cure for our poor money habits?
Yes, I believe there is. However, it takes time, discipline, awareness and mental strength in order for anyone to break this habit.
How long can it take to change a habit?
According to psychologists, while it may take approximately 21 days of conscious and consistent effort to create a new habit, it takes far longer to break an existing habit.
From personal experience in working with clients who want to change their poor money habits – it takes a lot longer.
You see there are deeper issues at play why some of us have poor money habits that can at times border on addiction. Just like any addiction, it’s more often than not about something that’s happened in the past.
A habit is not necessarily an addiction, though the two are strongly linked. A habit is any conscious behaviour you do on a routine basis.
Addiction is more about the behaviour to an excessive degree whereby someone feels unable to stop or control it.
Our self worth is often tied to our poor money habits. Our poor money habits can come from the messages we heard growing up and from the examples, we saw when we were younger.
Some of us spend when we feel low or unhappy to give us the kick “or high” we hope to make us feel good about ourselves. The hope that is supposed to fill the void we’re so looking to fill.
When in fact it’s much like the high you get from either an alcohol or drug addiction. Feels good at the time but hell when coming down from the high.
What’s the price of not changing our money habits?
There’s a high price to pay and that comes in the form of massive debt, poverty, unhappiness, envy & jealousy and often health issues.
So how do you move from poor money habits?
What are some of the ways to transform a poor money situation?
3 ways you can change a money habit is to:
1. First, acknowledge that you have a problem. A problem that you’re spending more than you earn, A problem that sees you with credit card debt, personal debt and other debt that you have no hope in paying off anytime soon. Being aware that you’re deep up to your elbows in debt and it’s time to get out, this is the first step.
2. Get help. Get the support you need to help you move forward. Having someone who understands and willing to help you means you’re not alone. It also gives you someone you can be accountable to. Someone who has a vested interest in seeing you succeed and live a better life without financial worry or stress.
3. And lastly, find your purpose – YOUR why. The reason you want a better life and one that doesn’t include massive debt or poor money habits. Set some goals. Write down how you want your life to be. What you want for your life and keep this at the forefront of your mind.
Writing down your dreams, goals and desires keeps you focussed and helps you work towards the bigger picture and what you want in life.
Breaking a habit takes a lot of willpower and motivation.
Ending the cycle of poor money habits is generally easier when it’s something you want to do rather than something others say you should do.
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In a world where tech advances have in many cases, made life easier than our parents and grandparents time. Why is it that for some of us, we are less content and happy with what we have – than previous generations?
I was scrolling on LinkedIn the other night or should I say morning and thought how so many of us are all vying for a piece of the pie. The pie that enables us to pay our bills, grow our business and build on long term wealth.
It was the early hours at 2 am that I sat at my desk wondering why.
I was supposed to be sleeping but wasn’t because my brain was overloaded with thoughts on how I can impact and help so many people who, on the surface appear to be doing well, but are not and are struggling financially.
Struggling to get ahead, trying to make ends meet and longing for more financial freedom.
Now I’m not talking about the kind of freedom that few achieve from massive wealth like Tony Robbins, Bill Gates or the Richards Branson’s of the world!
I’m talking about the financial freedom you get from not having to worry about mortgage repayments or even having a mortgage at all.
It’s the freedom of never having to worry about how you’re going to make your money stretch further and the freedom of not having to worry about money on a day to day basis.
That’s the kind of financial freedom I believe most are striving for.
There are many possible reasons why so many are financially struggling…
Here’s my top 3:
The obvious one is spending more than is earned.
From extensive personal debt that never seems to get paid off, and
Keeping up with those more fortunate or “keeping up with the Joneses” as the old saying goes.
Spending big on personal debt, whether trying to keep up with others or not and thinking you’ve got it covered at the end of the month (when you don’t) is a disaster resulting in crippling interest repayments.
I do feel we’ve lost some of the basic money management skills and fundamentals in how to work money to our advantage.
We don’t plan and save money. We think the good times are going to keep rolling on.
The problem with this mentality is that when an unexpected interruption comes along, whether it be a relationship breakdown, loss of income or our health is under pressure, we’re just not prepared and this has an enormous impact on our financial wellbeing.
Without the foundations in place when things go pear-shaped, as they do from time to time. Not having a money safety net to catch you and take the pressure off while you get back on your feet, can become very stressful.
There’s no denying it that people are doing it tough today.
I speak regularly with individuals, businesses owners, tradies and other professionals who are all looking for the same thing.
They want to get ahead, take the pressure off worrying about money coming in and just have more fun in life.
What I’m hearing and seeing is that under the surface people are really struggling.
They’re either doing it really tough feeling overwhelmed and struggling or frustrated and in pure survival mode.
The one thing I do know is that when you have the money foundations set right – it takes enormous pressure off.
Sadly, money stress continues to be the No 1 factor amongst our peers, our friends and our family.
The way to alleviate this stress is to look at financial education and getting the basics down and then building from there.
The start in my opinion to any healthy financial position is first looking at what I call “cash essentials”.
Cash Essentials is about ensuring you are saving and putting an amount every time you get paid or paid for work you do in separate a savings account.
Putting a minimum of 10% into a savings account away from your everyday banking is a forced discipline and if you put this on autopilot the amount you’ve set gets deducted and transferred into this saving account.
It may not feel like much at the start but when you factor in how quickly this can compound and grow you’ll be amazed at what you will have a few short years.
I’m still surprised today that so many do not have a regular savings plan set up.
That’s the first and crucial step to building financial muscle. The second is looking at what you’re spending.
It’s all too easier today to overspend and credit cards were designed that way to help you spend money you probably don’t have.
While we are becoming more and more a cashless society, there is a way you can get back control and that’s by switching from a credit card to a debit card. The debit card acts the same way but you’re only spending what you have and not what you don’t have on credit.
This is an awesome way to ensure you don’t overspend for those tempted to keep pulling out the plastic and losing control over their spending.
These suggestions are just a couple of basics that can be put in place today. However, in the end, it’s up to you and only you if want to live a financially free life.
It’s funny how we always find the money when it’s something we want and this is why we are a nation of spenders and not savers now.
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