The words wealthy and rich are words that tend to make some of us cringe and bring up feelings that all wealthy people are “up” themselves and rotten sods, which is not always the case.
When people think about wealth it often triggers poverty thinking and brings up fears, conditioning and unhealthy thoughts.
It makes people so uncomfortable that what happens is their behaviour makes them look for ways to make themselves feel better, about being poor.
Here in Australia, we love pulling those down that do better than us. We get jealous and our personalities turn very quickly when we’re in the company of wealthy people.
The tall poppy syndrome sadly is still strong in Australia. For those that don’t know what the tall poppy syndrome is? Well, it describes aspects of a culture where people of “perceived” high status are resented, attacked, cut down or criticised because they have been classified as superior to their peers.
New research has found its keeping many Australians – especially women – from pursuing their dreams and holding people back from reaching their true potential.
Dr Fiona Wood AM asked kids (when visiting schools after she won Australian of the Year in 2004)….
“How often have you done less than your best so that others around you didn’t feel uncomfortable?”
She cringed and felt upset to hear that they all gave an example of this and some felt proud of it.
She went onto to say in an interview, that there’s absolutely no mileage in the world to be AVERAGE...no matter what job you do.
You’ve got to understand yourself, so you can match your work ethic with your full potential.
You need to make your own decisions, stand up and be proud of what you’re doing.
Negative energy is a black hole and if you want to go wasting your precious time here on earth being part of it – then go ahead and jump in the black hole.
The opinion from others of you is theirs – you don’t have to own it.
The key is to keep learning, refining and up-skilling so that each day whatever you want gets easier to achieve.
One day at a time and one foot in front of the other is all you can do somedays.
Working hard and keeping your eye on the prize or the goal and never giving up, is the way to winning and living your life full, happy and with loads of wealthy potential.
People who don’t make decisions are wasting their human potential to do, be and create something great in their life.
I believe we all have that something special in us and it’s time to knock the tall poppy syndrome on its feet, ignore it and don’t let this stop you.
We live in a world where anything we dream is possible.
Prove naysayers wrong and don’t engage in pointless negativity & criticism.
We have to start somewhere when it comes to managing our money better and that starts with building financial muscle. Once you have the foundations in place, it’s a lot easier and faster to build on your wealth.
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In a world where tech advances have in many cases, made life easier than our parents and grandparents time. Why is it that for some of us, we are less content and happy with what we have – than previous generations?
I was scrolling on LinkedIn the other night or should I say morning and thought how so many of us are all vying for a piece of the pie. The pie that enables us to pay our bills, grow our business and build on long term wealth.
It was the early hours at 2 am that I sat at my desk wondering why.
I was supposed to be sleeping but wasn’t because my brain was overloaded with thoughts on how I can impact and help so many people who, on the surface appear to be doing well, but are not and are struggling financially.
Struggling to get ahead, trying to make ends meet and longing for more financial freedom.
Now I’m not talking about the kind of freedom that few achieve from massive wealth like Tony Robbins, Bill Gates or the Richards Branson’s of the world!
I’m talking about the financial freedom you get from not having to worry about mortgage repayments or even having a mortgage at all.
It’s the freedom of never having to worry about how you’re going to make your money stretch further and the freedom of not having to worry about money on a day to day basis.
That’s the kind of financial freedom I believe most are striving for.
There are many possible reasons why so many are financially struggling…
Here’s my top 3:
The obvious one is spending more than is earned.
From extensive personal debt that never seems to get paid off, and
Keeping up with those more fortunate or “keeping up with the Joneses” as the old saying goes.
Spending big on personal debt, whether trying to keep up with others or not and thinking you’ve got it covered at the end of the month (when you don’t) is a disaster resulting in crippling interest repayments.
I do feel we’ve lost some of the basic money management skills and fundamentals in how to work money to our advantage.
We don’t plan and save money. We think the good times are going to keep rolling on.
The problem with this mentality is that when an unexpected interruption comes along, whether it be a relationship breakdown, loss of income or our health is under pressure, we’re just not prepared and this has an enormous impact on our financial wellbeing.
Without the foundations in place when things go pear-shaped, as they do from time to time. Not having a money safety net to catch you and take the pressure off while you get back on your feet, can become very stressful.
There’s no denying it that people are doing it tough today.
I speak regularly with individuals, businesses owners, tradies and other professionals who are all looking for the same thing.
They want to get ahead, take the pressure off worrying about money coming in and just have more fun in life.
What I’m hearing and seeing is that under the surface people are really struggling.
They’re either doing it really tough feeling overwhelmed and struggling or frustrated and in pure survival mode.
The one thing I do know is that when you have the money foundations set right – it takes enormous pressure off.
Sadly, money stress continues to be the No 1 factor amongst our peers, our friends and our family.
The way to alleviate this stress is to look at financial education and getting the basics down and then building from there.
The start in my opinion to any healthy financial position is first looking at what I call “cash essentials”.
Cash Essentials is about ensuring you are saving and putting an amount every time you get paid or paid for work you do in separate a savings account.
Putting a minimum of 10% into a savings account away from your everyday banking is a forced discipline and if you put this on autopilot the amount you’ve set gets deducted and transferred into this saving account.
It may not feel like much at the start but when you factor in how quickly this can compound and grow you’ll be amazed at what you will have a few short years.
I’m still surprised today that so many do not have a regular savings plan set up.
That’s the first and crucial step to building financial muscle. The second is looking at what you’re spending.
It’s all too easier today to overspend and credit cards were designed that way to help you spend money you probably don’t have.
While we are becoming more and more a cashless society, there is a way you can get back control and that’s by switching from a credit card to a debit card. The debit card acts the same way but you’re only spending what you have and not what you don’t have on credit.
This is an awesome way to ensure you don’t overspend for those tempted to keep pulling out the plastic and losing control over their spending.
These suggestions are just a couple of basics that can be put in place today. However, in the end, it’s up to you and only you if want to live a financially free life.
It’s funny how we always find the money when it’s something we want and this is why we are a nation of spenders and not savers now.
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We took this at 1am after cleaning up from his party 🎉 on Saturday night remembering we didn’t get one photo of the 3 of us. Too late for our daughter to get into the photo as she was fast asleep 😴 by then.
Reaching 50 or any milestone in your life is worth celebrating 🥳.
It’s important to celebrate the milestones along the way whether it be birthdays, paying off debt, work achievements or whatever joy and happiness has come in at that time.
When we celebrate the special milestones in our life it triggers a change in habit to our brain 🧠 and this enables more of the good stuff to come in.
Celebrating even the fact you’re still here is a major milestone today as I’m sure we’ve all had special people in our life that are not here and had their time cut short.
Gratitude and appreciating all that you have in life – whether you don’t feel like being grateful because of certain circumstances that have occurred in your life – is the key to receiving more.
Now I’m not going to bang on here about gratitude and appreciation, as I feel there is plenty of that out there for you to tap into in other’s messages.
What I do want to share and highlight is to truly appreciate all what you have today whether it be a little or a lot and be thankful that you’re here.
So enjoy every milestone and moment in your life and live with love and gratitude ❤️
p.s. check out that rogue strand of hair sticking out lol – I was too tired to take another photo but love that we finally got one of the two of us before the night was out. Important to document special occasions even with unruly hair 🙂
Most of us desire happiness and balance but very few of us know how to get it in their life.
This is a tough subject because there are so many factors that inhibit us from truly being happy.
The obvious one that appears a lot is the lack of money and the other is we’re too busy being busy that we’re not stopping to see what’s going on around us and then making the changes we need to bring more happiness and joy in our life.
I was reflecting this morning how for the first time in weeks how I have really enjoyed the start of the school day with my daughter and how it felt when I wasn’t rushing her to get ready for school, with packing her bag, brushing her teeth and brushing her hair ready for me to tie up.
Ruby loves to dance in front of the mirror and often comes up with dance moves. Typical pre-teen. She’s got some good dance moves even though she doesn’t want to do dancing lessons. She often breaks out in dance moves when I feel we don’t have the time.
However, this particular day I just allowed and it was such a special moment. I caught myself really smiling just not a smirk to humour her and I was caught up in her moment. It reminded me of what life was like when I was a kid many moons ago. The freedom to do whatever I wanted without worry, without the hassle of all the things it takes to be an adult today with the many responsibilities.
So why today, what was so special about today…what was different about it. Why did I stop and be in the moment and be present in my daughter’s usual shenanigans?
It hit me about an hour later after I dropped her at school.
The ahhha moment at that time was,….take pressure off yourself – things will get done when they’re meant to get done. You can’t rush life.
Now some of you listening may be thinking that this is not the most motivating conversation for but for me, it was and made so much sense.
It was about knowing what’s really important and why we are working – not just to earn an income and pay our bills. For most of us we’re working – so we can build a life that we want to enjoy. It’s about creating a life we truly desire and makes us happy.
So many people strive for balance but most don’t actually get there. We’re too busy working, shuffling kids to sports, birthday parties and other things that we do when we have a family and taking care of our loved ones or whatever fills our busy adult days.
Life is precious.
Going back to my moment this morning something also hit me….
Last year my Dad’s 3 eldest brothers past away plus his best childhood friend all in the same year.
It was a reality call that highlighted again to me that I can’t take life for granted and I have to make each moment count.
I’ve heard that saying before but never really took much notice of it until reflecting at the end of last year.
Make each moment count as you just don’t know when our time on earth is up – none of us know when we will take our last breath.
Choose to spend time with the people that count. I’m choosing spend my time with the family and friends who make me happy and bring joy into my life and not because I have to see them.
Spend time with people who make you laugh, people who don’t judge, aren’t jealous or envious of you but love you for who you are warts and all.
Choose to declutter and detox not only things in and around your house, but people who don’t bring you happiness.
Choose to live life the way God intended us to – in peace, harmony and joy.
I challenge you here today to do more of what makes you happy. Reflect on all that is good in your life and clean out that which is not.
Don’t be afraid to offend people. Just do what you feel is right for you and your family.
It’s such a good feeling once you’ve done this – trust me!
This is one of the gifts I can give our daughter – teaching her to live her life with no regrets. Not worrying about what people think or say about her behind her back. To believe in herself and not listen to what other people say or think of her, but to listen to how she feels.
People will always have an opinion on who you are and how you should live your life. Choose not to let them get under your skin and choose your own special brand of happiness.
When you worry about what other people think it’s because you either have low self esteem and want to feel accepted or because in some truth there’s something about you that you possibly you need to change.
The people we are attract in our life often mirror something we like or don’t like about ourself.
Your reality is what you’re focussing on and thinking about is having a mirroring effect into what you’re attracting into your life whether it be a positive or negative experience.
It’s important to feed yourself and the next generation with positiveness, hope and the expectation we can achieve anything if we choose.
Choose to be happy and take the inspired action.
What are some of the ways you are choosing to be more happier and decluttering negativity out of your life? Let me know by leaving me your thoughts below.
I can’t remember exactly when I first heard about Mel Robbins and The 5 Second Rule on my youtube feed, however, I know that I was intrigued about some of the stuff Mel was saying and it was making SO much sense at the time.
Well, I’ve finally finished the book and what an awesome read it was.
I think it’s going to be a book that I’ll pick up again and again, as there are so many reminders we need to stay true to ourselves and live the life we desire without procrastination or fear of failure.
I have to say I’m a bit of shocker when it comes to reading books, as I generally have about 4 books on the go at one time.
I so love reading and how the words in some books just pop out and you go “hell yeah”, which is what Mel’s book did for me.
There are so many things we already know on a daily basis we “should be doing” but reading this book gives you a gentle reminder to continue to put certain things back into practice.
I had so so many “take-outs” from this book that I’ve written down and will keep for myself to look over to remind me to stay true, be brave & stop procrastinating.
I’ll do my best to highlight the main ones that I got out of the book, without giving too much away in case you decide to read it for yourself.
So here goes my “take-outs”…
I do the count down with our daughter and didn’t realise it until I read this book and yes the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 count down definitely works!
How to beat fear & procrastination by using the principals and practises Mel describes.
We are the problem no one else – for whatever is going on in our life.
Trust your gut & yourself more – research confirms the “gut theory”.
Letting go. There are always people who are going to jealous, envious or just plain don’t like you. That’s ok. Stay true to yourself, move on and forgive!
Improve your life by moving and stop making excuses – JUST DO IT!….and
How to stop overthinking things.
We all struggle with the same self-defeating problems.
We all doubt ourselves.
Don’t buy into these feelings….
There you go just a few of my “take-outs” from Mel Robbins book The 5 Second Rule!
An awesome read for anyone who wants to improve some part in their life.
Reading books can inspire us to become more of who we want to be.
Be inspired, read more, love more, live more and just be you – you are perfect exactly the way you are.So embrace you and be HAPPY!
If there’s a book you love then please let me know as I’d love to hear what 📚 inspires you 💝
